I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for more than 5 years. I should mention that I don’t like conflict and prefer to have my emotions build up until I explode to my Uber driver. He did something that really bothered me but I did the usual: I started acting weird and distant to see if he would pick up the signs and ask me what’s wrong.
It’s been four years and six months since this happened and he still hasn’t popped the question. How many years would you say are not normal? Also, I’ve been getting used to this new soul-less personality, should I just embrace it? I don’t know if I can go back to my old me.
Dear Weirdly Comfortable,
I totally relate to what you are going through. You want to avoid “the talk” so you become a different person in the hopes of having him start the conversation.
The good news is that I think you’re onto something adopting this new weird personality. It seems like this side of yours doesn’t get hung up in silly problems, your partner seems to like her better and you have no personality to worry about because you don’t have one!
I would recommend fully embracing this attitude and if he ever brings the question to the table just answer what comes natural – “nothing”.